Today would have been my 7th wedding anniversary. Five months ago on January 9, 2019, at 10:10am….my divorce was finalized. My marriage lasted 6 years and 7 months.

To say that the last few years of my life have been difficult is a gross understatement. Through all of the ups and downs, I lost me. I was a shell of the person I was supposed to be. I became my titles of wife and mother and forgot to be Leesha. I actually didn’t know who Leesha was anymore. I put my purpose aside for the sake of my position.

There are some of you out there who are currently in that predicament. You’ve lost the essence of who you are. There are dreams and visions that can only come to pass through you, yet you cannot see the forest for the trees. Those “things” look so far off…so unattainable because of life. Hopefully, it doesn’t take something as devastating as divorce to help you get back to who God created you to be.

There are a few things that I am learning as I navigate this new space. Maybe my steps – missteps and all – can help you do and be better…

Journey of self discovery and rediscovery. I really had to reevaluate EVERYTHING in my space. While I was going through my divorce, I started discovering some traits that I adopted for the sake of survival…but they were toxic. I started the process of acknowledging what was wrong and pursuing the steps to make the necessary changes…and I’m still in the process.

Just trust God. I realized that I had walked away from what I knew to become someone else. I started treating God like a cosmic genie to help out when I was in a jam instead of constantly communicating with the Creator of the universe who happens to be my Father. When I started to refocus on God, things started falling in line. The peace I was missing showed up in a major way and allowed me to navigate through this difficult time without staying bitter.

Jump in. This step might not be for everybody…LOL! For me, in order to get back in line, I had to jump, headfirst, fully clothed, into the deep end. Fear has always been my fall guy for not doing something – not going back to school, not doing the REAL Conference, not running my business properly. After much prayer and self-talk, my way of getting over the hurt was to get in the mix. I signed up for more education. I am planning for REAL Conference 2019 (www.realconference.org). I have a team around me to help keep me accountable for my business.

My journey is not just for me…it is for someone out there who is struggling with their identity, someone who feels far away from purpose, someone who is looking to be restored, elevated, and affirmed so they can be liberated! You can make it! You can do it! God’s got you…don’t ever forget that!

I hope this helps! Regardless of where you are in life, God has a purpose and a plan for your life. Your life matters for more than just doing for others and fading into the background.